How We Grow Into Our Authentic Personality & The Changes Impact Our Career In a Great Way.

When we are growing up we are often asked what it is we want to be as an adult. Astronaut, athlete, writer, doctor. Of course, we are in the midst of this period of tumultuous change when the very concept of having just one career seems rather naive, and yet the choices we make during these formative, and often ill-informed, years have a significant impact on our future careers, whether that is how much we earn or whether we enjoy our career.

When we ask young people what they want to be when they are older, it’s not only a silly question because they lack the awareness of the multitude of possible careers they could have, but they are also highly unlikely to be the same person at 30 or 40 years old as they were when they were 16 or 17. Perhaps if we appreciated just how much not only is our personality is likely to change as we age, but how much we can help to shape that change, it would also change our perspective on our future career choice.

However, stability does not preclude the possibility of change, as personality traits change characteristically at different periods of the life span or something life changing not all individuals change in the same way or same speed. It took me 34 years to find the true me and what id like out of life.

“I’ve learned that making a living is not the same things as making a life.” ~Maya Angelou

Like most people, I’ve tried to control many aspects of my life, and this hasn’t always worked in my favor. Just when I thought I had it all under control, life has inconveniently shown me many, many times that I was getting a little too cocky. Slow down and observe and enjoy, Not everything you hear or do needs a reaction, simply listen and think.

Life is change, growth is optional and we make our daily choices. Throughout my life, I’ve moved towns, studied a foreign language, changed careers, launched a business, done a silent retreat, written a book, faced agonizing loss and grief, won awards, been deeply hurt, created awesome charity events, lived with huge uncertainty and pain, found love and friendships to cherish, and created life and lost life. Throughout these and plenty more crazy, insane, complex, and utterly beautiful life events, I have collected treasured building blocks that help me live a life of meaning, purpose, and joy every single day.

I want to share them with you in the hope that throughout your own daily trials and triumphs.

* Transformation is not a switch; it’s more like a gauge and daily consistency built into habits and rituals. * The beauty is that you don’t have to flip a button and expect change just allow it happen. Like learning anything, start with just one at a time. * With consistent repetition, you’ll be fluent, and these personal growth building blocks will lay a magnificent foundation for all your life’s work. * You are the author. You hold the pen. You get to learn and read and write your own masterpiece, chapter by chapter, line by line, letter by letter.

If I could predict the future, then I’d probably be playing the lottery knowing I’m picking the right numbers. But I can’t foresee what’s coming down the road. I can only choose my attitude when I hit roadblocks along the journey, which ultimately shapes my choices.

What helps me maintain an optimistic attitude and cope when thing go wrong? Three very important things I follow:

1. Life happens for you, not to you.

2. This too shall pass.

3. Be with what is.

When life doesn't go to plan, we must embrace the change and realize that our lives are composed of chapters; one has ended and another one is about to begin. But we can’t move on to the next chapter if we continually re-read old ones. We have to willingly accept that life goes on, and that we have a chance to create something bigger and better.

I also realize that time plays a crucial factor in our lives. Our time is limited, and it consistently passes at the same speed, with no bias. This means that, with time, the inner turmoil I am currently dealing with will, without a doubt, pass.

Last but not least, I know that I must be with what is. In other words, stop resisting. Fighting you own mind on what should be. Fighting the fact your relationship ended won’t necessarily have them running back into your arms. The job you applied for you didn't get and so on....

I learned that real change and growth doesn’t have to take years. It doesn’t even have to take months. Change—real change—can happen in a moment. The moment someone is able to see, hear, and acknowledge you. Your strengths. Your worth. Your dignity. And honor you despite your weaknesses and failings.

To be truly seen, heard, and understood, and be loved anyway—that is real agent of change and the basis for all meaningful growth and development. It certainly was for me.