Being The one Who Loves More Is Terrifying, But It's Always Worth It: Sex, laughs and Oops!!

Part 1.

Everyone wants to find love. Anyone who tells you otherwise is either lying or delusional.

That being said, sometimes, the prospect of being in love can be pretty terrifying. I assure you that it's not love that's the problem. The love part is all great. It's losing the love that hurts or is the thought of love in mind. If someone offered me a choice between taking a non-fatal bullet or dealing with a broken heart, I'd choose the bullet every time because it would undoubtedly hurt less and heal faster, or would it ?

The older we become, the more suitable our dating choices become. So, breaking up now is undoubtedly harder than it was five or ten years ago. You're no longer dating wildly inappropriate men, and so, the feelings you develop are based on real emotions and connection instead of youthful excitement and just getting off quickly! you know that hurry up and make me cum kinda sex or you know it wont last but lets try anyway.

So, no matter how much wine you drink or how much ice cream you eat, it still hurts in the end when one says goodbye.

Hurt tends to be a common theme in relationships for so many people. You see, there are two types of people when it comes to dating: The ones who find themselves regularly hurt and let down, and the ones who do the hurting. Lets remember we make our own decisions so no one is to blame but ourselves. Love will arrive. The key is to find someone else who also loves too much and just as fast as you.

The real victims are the ones who never give their full commitment to a relationship. The truth is, these people will never create a safe enough space for their partners to be truly themselves. If you can't make your other half feel safe, wanted and desired sexually and mentally and emotionally you will never elicit the closeness it requires to be truly in love.

What is love to you? It's not some romantic concept where your eyes meet from across the room and you fall in love at just a glance. Love happens over time through shared experiences, stories and laughter during those oops moments of having strange sex positions and just saying wtf! Anyone who tells you otherwise is wrong. PS I was one of those women who fell at first glance and it does happen.

So, if you're the person who always loves more and gets hurt, don't feel bad about it. Celebrate that you have the capacity to find the love you want one day. If, on the other hand, you are the one who never quite finds what you want, perhaps consider letting someone else in entirely. It's the only way you'll ever know if he or she is the person for you or not.

Despite how convincing you believe you are, your partner can always tell when you aren't fully committed. In turn, he or she will always feel the need to hold something back. So don't!

Believe me no great love stories ever started with two people not knowing where they stand with one another, the issue of commitment and casually waiting, just in case something better comes along. We have been in that place more than once.

Our body tells us we want sex and to be touched. It's not always about sex. It's Intimacy we crave. To be touched on a part of our body that gives you tingles, looked at, admired and smiled at and to be just snuggled so f@*%*&% hard!

If your other half is always treading gently because they don't know where they stand, you'll never enjoy the true joy that comes from being carelessly in love and instantly turned on by someone. We all want to be satisfied in a pleasurable way. We all want to laugh with someone and feel safe.

"Your sexuality is a key part of your self-love journey. If you are shaming or suppressing your desires, your sex, your pleasures, means your suppressing yourself In other areas of life. Dive into your pleasures and get what you need in all aspects".

Now, I let my mind and body lead.

I only make noises that are consistent with what I'm feeling in my body.

I stay deeply connected to my breathe.

I speak up.

Eye contact.

Best of all I have fun!!

Sex is weird, it's awkward and unpredictable at times and yet so pleasurable. Get to know yourself and your partner and fall in love together not separately. Build together a foundation of a beautiful long lasting life in a friendship first and fall for each other over and over again and build an empire of business to never be bored with life.